Hes been through tons of owners and they have all given up on him. How many points will I take away? So, your significant other has a dog, and youve told them that its either the dog or you. The kids and him take advantage when it comes to housework, homework, cleaning, cooking, paying bills, organizing and they think Mom should do it all. We have to take my car everywhere because his is so full of hair. And worst of all take time away from our relationship. I totally and 1000% understand where you are coming from! Ive always wanted them to be trained properly but my husband just wants to spoil them and do whatever they want. The dog, can pretty much do anything it desires. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. Their breath smells likelike rotting roadkill. As for the dog thing and spreading bacteria, the only dog (or cat) disease that Ive ever heard of thats communicable to humans is Rabies. So, since my Chihuahua was the only one fully house trained & shes such a good dog, we agreed that we would keep her, but the other 2 dogs would need to find new homes. You are being neglected and neglect is a form of abuse. This is why women ends up lonely with a dog for the rest of the life. I will wait untill the dog dies and then he sells that house and we get our own place together and NO DOGS!!! Not to mention the hair. I just got done reading this article and all of the comments and its fair to say there are people who love dogs like they are their own children and then there are people who dont understand that at all. My bf doesnt even like the dog! I was also in a new relationship and did not want to throw the towel in yet, and he told me he was open to having me help train the dog. About a year ago, we got our home renovated and our bathroom upstairs was done beautifully, problem is, we cant really use it because that is his home. If so, that should happen anyway, but if your SO hates animals or has jealousy issues over your pet that is a big sign of future problems that have more to do with hat person than you or your pup/kitty/iguana/etc. Please help!!! One of each. Tell him that you agree with his decision and ask for another chance. I truly in all my heart believe that people who choose animal relationships over human ones need therapy. I hate cleaning up after his dog mostly because its not appreciated because he doesnt think its gross or a problem at all! I volunteer in animals shelters.. and it is nice to be able to get the animal fix of missing my dogs and cats by doing that.. Have a nice day. Hes attached himself to this dog to the point were now separated. I put him a doggie bed beside of ours and he slept there. She was so cute and sweet, and my boyfriend was really happy to have her. The wife claims its not fair I came with 2 and she only has one. She sleeps with me, but I groom her and rmb s in her diet and weekly toothbrush she doesnt have bad breath or fart. She would say shes going to adhere to boundaries so we could all live in harmony but would go against that shortly afterwards so we would always butt heads because she would never keep her word. Dogs need to be walked daily, given affection, be able to spend time outdoors and also with its family. Now she barely does that without forcing her to or saying it 15+ times. I got rid of my dog because of the agreement we made but he still has his dog a year later. No begging no bed or furniture sharing. We love each other very much but this situation is putting a strain on our relationship, he says he doesnt understand as I used to like her at first, I genuinely did but when I realised what it was like to live with her things changed. Ive had several vets tell me to not let a dog sleep on the bed. I bought a cage and put him in it at night. I have a small senior dog who I live as if he were family. Once you figure that out the fight wont exist. I left him alone with my little dog and strangely he was hunched over and in a lot of pain. I feel the same as many other people that no matter what, I feel my house is dirty. Take this as a bit of insight as to why some draw so easily to animal company that can not be so easily deterred as human company can. I had a 4 hour commute to work total so I was very busy and am disgusted by picking up dog excrements. I may sound angry right now because i am. Anyhow, we moved to a house where I agreed to keep my dog in his own section of the house in the kitchen/laundry room so if he were to have an accident, which infuriates my husband, then it wouldnt be hard to clean up. My dog has been tempted time and time again by my Ex to jump in a car with him (while I had a restraining order against him) and not ONCE did she ever yield. good luck! Im just sick and tired of this dog being higher on the totem pole than me and our kids. UGH! My biggest problem is the way she treats the animal. Ive had people tell me that Im not a good dog parent(I hate that term) because we dont let him on our furniture. Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. My wife blames my 13 month pitt for everything that is chewed up regardless of where its laying at. He has also peed in the house a couple of times. All our money is shared; the house is in his name, so are all the cars, and whenever I try to save some money aside in case I have to leave and take the dogs with me, he throws a tantrum and guilts me till I submit. I think it helped to hear from someone else not in the relationship how ridiculous he was being basically choosing the dog over your significant other. Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. So, she did depend on them and treated them like humans (something she even admitted she has to stop doingtreating them like humans). Id give him away in a sec, but come on, its harder when you look at his face and he looks at you with puupy eyes. Dont obsess or turn them into humans and call them the babies. He wrote me a text saying that he wants a divorce. I spent a number of years working in mental health and have gotten feedback from old colleagues, I guess Im really just looking for some anonymous feedback on the situation. 7. i cannot stand this animal. Spoiled animal who is neither trained nor socialized. The dog has not done anything wrong. At this point, I feel like her dog dictates our relationship. They come out there, put their mouth at the table because we have breakfast food on there and wipe drool on the table (throw up city!) Hes many times now said I will be gone before the dog. I tried calling no answer, so text her why is your dog here? I believe shes jealous but he doesnt seem to see it. He is low key and causes no trouble in the relationship. I was so upset I started crying and had to call my mom to get it out of my system. We both want a life together as a family. So Im not a cruel person and I have loved the dogs and cats Ive owned in the past. His parents are just as bad, they call the dog their grandkid and call several times a day to check on the dog. She wasnt taught any manners. The dog is to have free reign of his home, she was there for him first. I feel that this is not a time and a place to have dogs, where we should get used to living with the 2 of us and building our life and a good foundation together as newlyweds and have a good quality of life where I can get my night sleep and just live in peace and harmony. He gets punished for that? IMO, dogs are meant to live with families and do better in environments where they are allowed some independence and interaction with more than just one person. The smell, the barking, the poop, the wee, the high medical cost etc. My husband has forced me to hate dogs. No, I really did not have a clue! I am so glad I found this site because I have nobody to vent to. Everyone loves him and he is the most loveable,obedient dog ever. Its getting to the point where my boyfriend doesnt even want the dog in the livingroom anymore. We tried create training and he broke the first one so we got a metal one. Gosh That just tells us how your character is. Thank you. He asked me to just become okay with fur. But, everything depends on what we are referred to as a Bite.. As everyone agrees, this small nip never gonna draw blood. So knowing this was a temporary situation it was ok with my partner. Also, be basks in his dogs love, and great qualities cant understand why we cant learn from them. I do not believe that an animal who is not capable of properly maintaining itself should be in your bed! She has never snapped at me or anyone again.She only barks when someone is outside she doesnt know, and all I have to do is tell her, thats enough. I enjoy cuddling with him. Im not against the dog, dogs in general are just not for me anymore. Is there anyone prepared or happy to take your dog out for giving exercises. But my boyfriend loved her. Its to the point now where I have no desire to sleep over her condo anymore. Not loved his dog, he was in love with his dog. I cant stand it! He always chooses me over her now because he knows Im the pack leader. I was so afraid that I feared he may have crossed a line he shouldnt have. Its Disgusting! He leaves existing holes alone now but chews another one. I love dogs but not wolves. Me and my fiance both have dogs when we met he already had a 3 year old french mastiff and an american eskimo i have 2 beagles, we have been together for 2 yrs and 4 months now and our dogs have never met eachother and he proposed and i said yes as we do have a great relationship, but 1yr ago he asked if i wanted to get a baby girl mastiff with him to try and bread the other and i said yes, so now their is 3 dogs at his house and heres the thingwhen i bring it up that my 2 dogs are comming with me if i move in and ask what if they dont get along then what? The house always smelled clean and we did have to worry about poop or pee anywhere either as he always went to the litter and we kept that clean. B its not that bad, it comes right off clothes easily w a soft cloth. I just wish hed been honest about it and not let me go for this long looking forward to realising a dream and then having it shattered. I have two daughters, 13 & 11. Ive really tried bc I feel terrible for him, but then when we finally moved in together he started to guilt me into doing more things for the dog like walking her on a rotating basis with him. READ the context before leaving some detached comment! And it is quite obvious to us that he is not going to change. I also hated it when the dog would sleep on my pillow or by my side of the bed and it was also joked about when I mentioned it. There are so many dog nuts out there its scary!!! Reason why? All I am asking for is to sleep without a dog in my room. Like I said it would be one thing if they would get up off their rears and help, but they dont. It wasnt an overly-excited dog, just liked to chill and sit and be with us, which was great. Its possible that letting your pet wash mouth sores could spread them (cause immediate additional sores), but again, this is a virus under discussion. raise your kids to love and respect animals but making them a sibling, i think not. Dont get me wrong, I DO enjoy animals and their company and I have had a small dog for many years before all this! I watched him as he sat to the left of her, take her head. I honestly dont know what to do anymore. he kept insisting that the dogs had to be on the bed, there was black dirty, a TON of hair and even drips of pee on the sheet! It has not been hard enough to draw blood but our son was weary of it for sometime. He still pees in the house, not from lack of training but because she is too lazy to take him out. I want it to work. Wow, it is so comforting to know that I am not alone after reading everyones posts. Even if my back was hurting and I had to use my inhaler all the time. I am doing all the training, but I work full time and hes home during the day. I started dating a girl and she had one bulldog. I was used to Rocky sleeping with me. So, now in my third year of marriage I am reading and learning, more and more about this phenomenon because I love my wife but not her attachment to her dogs. Me and my partner have been together for nine years and I relocated to his country in order to live with him. Its feeling like Im second best and that ever since that d. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for two years. I just wish she wouldnt stink or shed so much but this wont stop. If youre starting a new relationship, take time to discuss your values regarding pets. She had a 10 year old golden when we met and I bonded with both the girl and dog. What do you think, am I being unreasonable for putting my foot down and say I dont want them when behaving like this? My partner says she understands but she really doesnt. I plan on keeping the mom and the babies will be adopted through the rescue I volunteer for. Can I put my foot down? It also feels that things are getting better between my husband and I. This is obvious. I have said I do not want the dog in bed but it goes ignored. I could not understand how someone could do this without being completely evil. Now with my partner its so different. How I cant stand his dog. If one makes it a human and the other as a pet animal it will never work. Hopefully she can help me get through this. The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. You hate him! End discussion. I feel like thats sort of evil and that she lied about who she was. In Mistys case it is pretty obvious that the man has a codependent relationship with his dog; he has made it clear to her that the animal is his priority and he is unwilling to change for the sake of developing a relationship with her. I even had him get pain pills because one day I noticed her moving from room to room trying to get comfortable. Hitting an animal is never acceptable a puppy is just like a baby it needs love and attenion he learns from play just like children. 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